When The MILC Group first started out we ran a series that we called "JJs Nip Tips." They were named for an adorable chunky baby who we spent a lot of time with. JJ is now a rambunctious preschooler and we wanted to take a moment to pull together a list of our favorite Nip Tips and post an adorable updated pic of our chunky mascot.
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Photo Info: The photo above is hilarious! I'm the one not looking at the camera and instead gazing lovingly in the direction of that baby! The other girls (one got cropped out) are sisters and as I recall they were French. I wish I could remember everyone's names but it was a long long time ago.
The other morning I was having some random thoughts/memories and wanted to share them. It always interests me to hear how someone developed their feelings surrounding breastfeeding. The following is one of my earliest memories of breastfeeding which I believe shaped me.
When I was little I lived in the tiny village of Ellon in Scotland. My Father is in the oil business and at the time the North Sea was where oil families lived. I loved my little village. We had no big stores, no malls, no nothing. What we did have was village charm. It was truly an idyllic way to grow up. We lived on a cul-de-sac and we knew everyone on the street. One of the ladies at the end of the street had a baby when I was about six or seven years old. This is when my love of babies and maybe Motherhood first started.
I would walk home from school each day and change out of my school uniform (picture Harry Potter style clothes). I'd ask my Mom if it was ok for me to go down the street to see the baby. Our neighbor was so lovely and she would welcome me each afternoon. We would sit together and she would have a cup of tea and make me a cup of hot Ribena (British berry drink). We would chat about my day and hers and about the baby. At some point the baby would get hungry and she would breastfeed the baby. I don't remember any hesitation on her part and I don't remember me thinking it should be done any other way. We would sit there and enjoy each other's company. It was all so simple and normal.
Seeing that baby being fed at the breast and having her Mother not question for a second whether or not she should do it in front of me was wonderful. I'm so glad that my own children have seen literally hundreds if not thousands of women breastfeed in front of them. Their whole world is made up of birth, babies and breastfeeding. It's normal life and that is so lovely.
I hope this little post gets you thinking about your first memories of breastfeeding and I hope they are at least half as positive as mine.
You've seen "lots" of IBCLCs ... Why should you see The MILC Group before you give up on Breastfeeding?
I read or hear this statement, sometimes daily, but definitely weekly. A desperate parent posting on the Internet that they are about to "give up" on breastfeeding. When asked if they have seen an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant), they say that they have. They often add that they have seen "lots" of them. They say that the visits helped a bit with latch or positioning, but for whatever reason their nipples are still sore or baby is still not gaining weight appropriately. This is where I wish I could say, "but you haven't seen us!"
Why don't I say it? Essentially because it's rude. How do I say that we are better? What makes us better?
Many parents have met with a breastfeeding helper (hopefully they are an IBCLC) in the hospital in the days immediately after baby is born. Unfortunately, during their shift the hospital IBCLC is tasked with seeing an entire list of new families as well as the babies in the NICU. They are allotted about 15 minutes per family. Sometimes a family gets lucky and the IBCLC has more time to spend with them.
During an appointment with The MILC Group we spend 1.5 to 2 hours with families. We have the opportunity to fully listen and discuss the issues the breastfeeding dyad is having. We can examine the baby and observe a relaxed nursing session. We feel privileged to have this time with you.
Some families have gone back to the hospital lactation centers for outpatient visits to work on the latch, etc. It would be my expectation that during that consult a full and thorough oral examination would be done as well as looking at the baby's structure and function. Time should be taken to listen. A full health history can show much about what is going on. Sadly this is often not the case.
Why do the IBCLCs of The MILC Group take more time doing the type of exam mentioned above? Part of it is experience, but more so training we have received. We have chosen to pursue additional hands-on training as well as other professional development which has assisted us in identifying issues that others miss. Taking the time to really look at a baby. Is the baby's alignment straight or crooked? Does their body curve one way or their neck twist another? How does their mouth move when nursing? How does their jaw look? What is going on inside of their mouth?
This past week, a parent posted in an online group. They wrote they were switching to exclusively pumping and bottle feeding. They had seen several IBCLCs at the hospital and they were still having latch and pain issues. I tried to explain the bottle can get the job done feeding their baby, but the issue causing feeding at the breast to go poorly is still there. This is a hard thing to explain to someone who is in pain and desperate.
How many kids do you know who get pulled out for speech therapy in elementary school? How many times do you hear a parent say that their kids are picky eaters, won't eat foods with certain textures, that they can't swalllow pills, etc.? These are often signs of an oral issue that might have been caught with a thorough examination by a well-trained IBCLC. Taking a full and thorough health history and asking questions about family oral anatomy can tell so much! I always get excited putting the dots together for people. You can switch to bottles as so many families have done for the past 100 or so years BUT that oral anatomy won't change.
Can The MILC Group fix every problem? No. We can do our best though and through our Weight Check Wednesdays and Friday Breastfeeding Support Group we do our very best to continue supporting families who are having issues and working through problems. We offer support and encouragement. We provide referrals. We hope to be the people who keep you going. We do this because someone did it for us.
A week ago I put my home on the market. If you have ever sold a home you know how hard it is to keep it picked up and looking show worthy every day. Today I had to leave my house with my dog in order for the house to be shown. When I returned the folks who had been here were still standing across the street talking to their realtor. It made me wonder....what do people think of my house?
On the surface I think that my house looks very "normal." It is a simple three bedroom house. The color palate is neutral. I love all things "natural" looking. You can tell I have two daughters that live at home. There are lots of pictures of my children on the walls and in frames scattered around. Then there are the "extras" that probably set my home apart as that of a birth worker/IBCLC/hippie....
I wonder if people notice these things? I wonder if they have an image of me? Hopefully it makes them smile. Maybe they will be my clients one day. Just my random thoughts for today.
Getting through the week can sometimes be so challenging. For new parents the week can seem to drag on forever. Having something to look forward to can really keep you going. I can't remember how we decided to host our Breastfeeding Support Group on Friday afternoons but it was a great idea!
What do we talk about during our Friday Support Group? I wanted to share a sample of last week's topics...
One of our Mamas asked how everyone enjoyed Mother's Day. No one seemed to do anything overly special but it was a nice way to start our chat.
Another Mama asked about feeding older breastmilk to her baby. This Mama will be enjoying a special event with some friends in the fall and was wondering if milk she pumps now will still be good to leave. Breastmilk is always good even though the composition changes as baby's grow. We suggested leaving a mixture of fresh and frozen milk for baby.
We discussed spit up and babies who are happy excessive spit-uppers. We talked about the lovely odor after you have been spit up on and how spit up down your bra gives off a nice cheesy smell by days end.
One of the babies had a tongue and lip tie revision that week so we asked how he is doing and discussed the procedure and changes in latch.
Birth control came up which led to discussing the lack of sex after babies and to a description of lactational amenorrhea.
Many of our parents will weigh their babies on our scale when they are at the Support Group. It helps them to keep a track of their baby's growth and development. We love providing this service at no charge.
Other random topics....super random :)
Natural cleaning products
The meaning of "Seventh Generation"
Cloth menstrual pads
Family cloth (look that one up yourself)
Healthy foods and your babies
This particular Friday we had a nice group of parents with babies in tow and a Grandmother was in attendance too! Our Group is casual and lively. The parents look forward to having a safe space to share and discuss their questions and concerns. Ginger and I look forward to seeing these parents and their babies too. Seeing the babies grow and change is so lovely.
If you have been on the fence about whether or not to attend a MILC Breastfeeding Support Group maybe this will make you feel more comfortable. We hope to see you soon!
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Families in the San Antonio area have a good number of choices for their breastfeeding support needs. We wanted to compile a list of reasons that you should choose The MILC Group.
Your baby has arrived and you are having problems breastfeeding. What should you do? Some of your knowledgeable friends suggest that you should see an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant). That sounds okay, but you want to know what to expect during a meeting with one. Here is what to expect if you choose to meet with an IBCLC from The MILC Group.
We hope that this answered your questions about what to expect if you schedule a Lactation Consultation with The MILC Group. We look forward to meeting with you and your family!
We can be reached by phone at 210-960-MILC/210-960-6452.
~Tina & Ginger